Comments on: Broken parts http://breagettingfit.com/2009/06/04/broken-parts/ Adventures in Fitness Fri, 27 Jan 2012 21:32:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kim aka sugarshoes http://breagettingfit.com/2009/06/04/broken-parts/comment-page-1/#comment-187 Kim aka sugarshoes Fri, 05 Jun 2009 14:25:59 +0000 http://breagettingfit.com/?p=629#comment-187 Brea - Your friends have left wonderful advice, and I don't have much more to add but I can completely sympathize with your pain. It's not fair, I agree. I know you want to be able to stay home with your kids but what if you were able to work part-time to provide a little extra money? Does the university where hubby will be offer daycare? I'm just trying to add some outlets to the situation, I am 2 years from 30 as well and am so ready to have kids, I agree that there will probably never be a perfect time. I hope your husband understands how painful this is for you. Brea – Your friends have left wonderful advice, and I don’t have much more to add but I can completely sympathize with your pain. It’s not fair, I agree. I know you want to be able to stay home with your kids but what if you were able to work part-time to provide a little extra money? Does the university where hubby will be offer daycare? I’m just trying to add some outlets to the situation, I am 2 years from 30 as well and am so ready to have kids, I agree that there will probably never be a perfect time. I hope your husband understands how painful this is for you.

]]> By: irene http://breagettingfit.com/2009/06/04/broken-parts/comment-page-1/#comment-186 irene Fri, 05 Jun 2009 02:13:39 +0000 http://breagettingfit.com/?p=629#comment-186 i hope you get to feeling better girl! you are spread so thin and do so much for so many people, I can totally understand the need to let it out every now and then!!! maybe coming off your BC has your hormones crazy too, i could never find a good BC that didn't get me all whacked w/ my hormones, i had an mirena iud for over 2 yrs and it made me soooo emotional, so now we are just "being careful" talk about paranoia! i have been keeping track of my cycles and so far its been working for us... you'll have your babies one day! and you will be a wonderful mommy!!! you are such a great person, you kick @ss! i am so glad to have "met" you!! keep your head up girl! i hope you get to feeling better girl! you are spread so thin and do so much for so many people, I can totally understand the need to let it out every now and then!!! maybe coming off your BC has your hormones crazy too, i could never find a good BC that didn’t get me all whacked w/ my hormones, i had an mirena iud for over 2 yrs and it made me soooo emotional, so now we are just “being careful” talk about paranoia! i have been keeping track of my cycles and so far its been working for us…

you’ll have your babies one day! and you will be a wonderful mommy!!! you are such a great person, you kick @ss! i am so glad to have “met” you!! keep your head up girl!

]]> By: Jill http://breagettingfit.com/2009/06/04/broken-parts/comment-page-1/#comment-185 Jill Thu, 04 Jun 2009 22:50:14 +0000 http://breagettingfit.com/?p=629#comment-185 I know where you husband is coming from with the insurance. Pregnancy is an expensive thing to go though-especially without good insurance. Then as soon as your child is born they will need insurance. My oldest ended up in the hospital at 3 weeks of age and we ended up being there for 9 weeks and then on and off for the next two months. It is hard. We were going to try for our 3rd in the beginning of the year. Then stuff happened that made us need to wait-I don't want to have kids after 35-which is a year and a half away. So we decided to wait. Then my brother got engaged and the wedding is in August and I don't want to be preggo for those pics-haha. So we are going to maybe try right after. We have SUPER insurance, but he is trying to get a position at work right now that pays better than the one he is in now. I am crossing my fingers. We shall see!! Hope things start looking up for you. I know where you husband is coming from with the insurance. Pregnancy is an expensive thing to go though-especially without good insurance. Then as soon as your child is born they will need insurance. My oldest ended up in the hospital at 3 weeks of age and we ended up being there for 9 weeks and then on and off for the next two months. It is hard. We were going to try for our 3rd in the beginning of the year. Then stuff happened that made us need to wait-I don’t want to have kids after 35-which is a year and a half away. So we decided to wait. Then my brother got engaged and the wedding is in August and I don’t want to be preggo for those pics-haha. So we are going to maybe try right after. We have SUPER insurance, but he is trying to get a position at work right now that pays better than the one he is in now. I am crossing my fingers. We shall see!! Hope things start looking up for you.

]]> By: Jennifer Perkins http://breagettingfit.com/2009/06/04/broken-parts/comment-page-1/#comment-184 Jennifer Perkins Thu, 04 Jun 2009 22:47:01 +0000 http://breagettingfit.com/?p=629#comment-184 Brea, my heart goes out to you. Let me share with you my story. Take from it what you will. My husband and I had planned to wait 5 years before we had children (we were married young). I finished my BS and was working in the field, and he was on his way to being done. Then, I was told it would hard if not impossible for me to conceive, so I thought why am I on birth control (hated it!)? The next day I quit and within four months (only the three year mark)...I was puking and miserable but very happy! It was a hard go. I had to quit my job due to my extremly hard pregnancy. I felt alone and sick all the time, but I survived. I was basically a single parent once my Aspen arrived and my husband hated being away from us so much. He worked full time during the day to provide and went to school part time in the evenings. He and I made many sacrifices on behalf of our growing family. Since this was a surprise (however much it can be) pregnancy, life was rough for a while. With that said, I wouldn't change a thing. My daughter was meant to come to our family at that time and taught my husband and I a great deal of life lessons. I believe you can make anything work, it just takes work. If two people are willing then you can get through come what may. I wanted my children fairly close so when my husband graduated in 2005, my second daughter was already one. I can honestly say that life is better now that he is home in the evening. Together as we watch our third child grow, my husband has remarked how badly he wishes he were home more with the older two. Life is hard, and it is equally as hard to get our husbands on board with our family planning sometimes. I had to force the issue the third time around, and now we are both so happy that I did. I'll keep you in my prayers. Good luck with all your planning and try and keep your chin up! Brea, my heart goes out to you. Let me share with you my story. Take from it what you will.

My husband and I had planned to wait 5 years before we had children (we were married young). I finished my BS and was working in the field, and he was on his way to being done. Then, I was told it would hard if not impossible for me to conceive, so I thought why am I on birth control (hated it!)? The next day I quit and within four months (only the three year mark)…I was puking and miserable but very happy!

It was a hard go. I had to quit my job due to my extremly hard pregnancy. I felt alone and sick all the time, but I survived. I was basically a single parent once my Aspen arrived and my husband hated being away from us so much. He worked full time during the day to provide and went to school part time in the evenings. He and I made many sacrifices on behalf of our growing family.

Since this was a surprise (however much it can be) pregnancy, life was rough for a while. With that said, I wouldn’t change a thing. My daughter was meant to come to our family at that time and taught my husband and I a great deal of life lessons. I believe you can make anything work, it just takes work. If two people are willing then you can get through come what may.

I wanted my children fairly close so when my husband graduated in 2005, my second daughter was already one. I can honestly say that life is better now that he is home in the evening. Together as we watch our third child grow, my husband has remarked how badly he wishes he were home more with the older two.

Life is hard, and it is equally as hard to get our husbands on board with our family planning sometimes. I had to force the issue the third time around, and now we are both so happy that I did. I’ll keep you in my prayers. Good luck with all your planning and try and keep your chin up!

]]> By: Allyson (Inspiredtobefit) http://breagettingfit.com/2009/06/04/broken-parts/comment-page-1/#comment-183 Allyson (Inspiredtobefit) Thu, 04 Jun 2009 19:35:08 +0000 http://breagettingfit.com/?p=629#comment-183 Oh, hun. I wish I was there to hug you!! I totally know how you feel. I was in that exact spot the year before I got pregnant. My husband wanted everything perfect and was dead set on waiting until that happened. No matter what I said, he'd find some excuse to knock the wind out of my balloon. I was devastated, heartbroken, and lost. I didn't know what else to do. I sat back and watched my friends all get pregnant, have babies, and thought it was unfair. I knew I was meant to be a mom, but didn't know how I would get there. Hubby and I were fighting so much over it..I acutally almost gave up on our marriage all together, only 6 months in. Anyways, I got the luck of the draw (and convincing from some of our friends) and hubby agreed we'd "try, but not really try". Well OOPS it happened VERY quickly and he was in complete shock and didn't speak for almost half a day. LOL He eventually got over it and absolutely LOVES being a dad. The moral of the story is...DON'T GIVE UP. You will become a mom. I have faith that all your dreams will come true. I really think he'll come around. Some men get really scared and cold feet when it comes to babies. Maybe your hubby is like mine. Hang in there. If he doesn't I'll come hunt him down and knock some sense into him!! hee hee I'm thinking of you! :) Oh, hun. I wish I was there to hug you!! I totally know how you feel. I was in that exact spot the year before I got pregnant. My husband wanted everything perfect and was dead set on waiting until that happened. No matter what I said, he’d find some excuse to knock the wind out of my balloon. I was devastated, heartbroken, and lost. I didn’t know what else to do. I sat back and watched my friends all get pregnant, have babies, and thought it was unfair. I knew I was meant to be a mom, but didn’t know how I would get there. Hubby and I were fighting so much over it..I acutally almost gave up on our marriage all together, only 6 months in. Anyways, I got the luck of the draw (and convincing from some of our friends) and hubby agreed we’d “try, but not really try”. Well OOPS it happened VERY quickly and he was in complete shock and didn’t speak for almost half a day. LOL He eventually got over it and absolutely LOVES being a dad.

The moral of the story is…DON’T GIVE UP. You will become a mom. I have faith that all your dreams will come true. I really think he’ll come around. Some men get really scared and cold feet when it comes to babies. Maybe your hubby is like mine. Hang in there. If he doesn’t I’ll come hunt him down and knock some sense into him!! hee hee

I’m thinking of you! :)

]]> By: Nahum StMartin http://breagettingfit.com/2009/06/04/broken-parts/comment-page-1/#comment-182 Nahum StMartin Thu, 04 Jun 2009 17:56:12 +0000 http://breagettingfit.com/?p=629#comment-182 Keep your head up Brea, your body and emotions are just going through one of those adjustment times. Once I began exercising again, I had several "mood swings" and emotions. Your body is getting acquainted with the new fabulous you. You are right - there is never a perfect time to have children. I have 5 and none came at the perfect time...and the time still isn't perfect. The only perfection needed is the love you & your husband have for each other and that will translate into raising well-adjusted children no matter what the circumstances. Keep your head up Brea, your body and emotions are just going through one of those adjustment times. Once I began exercising again, I had several “mood swings” and emotions. Your body is getting acquainted with the new fabulous you. You are right – there is never a perfect time to have children. I have 5 and none came at the perfect time…and the time still isn’t perfect. The only perfection needed is the love you & your husband have for each other and that will translate into raising well-adjusted children no matter what the circumstances.

]]> By: Sam http://breagettingfit.com/2009/06/04/broken-parts/comment-page-1/#comment-181 Sam Thu, 04 Jun 2009 17:49:46 +0000 http://breagettingfit.com/?p=629#comment-181 I am sorry that all of this is hitting you at once. I can't even imagine how this has been affecting you. I for one know how putting it out there will allow others to support you, and I am here to do just that. I wish I could say the magic phrase that makes sense of all of this, but unfortunately that is not true. You are right when you say there is no "perfect time" to have kids. You will never be ready and to think you will is naive. To me it sounds like excuses may continue although I would hope he understands how this is impacting you. It sounds like having children is important to you. You seem to be making so many adjustments and life decisions based upon him... when will the time come to start letting your opinion dictate those decisions. Please let me know if I could ever be of assistance. Good luck with the race... I hope to get to that point, but it is a long way away. The race can be run a different day... maybe you should focus on the right race for you... one that may have nothing to do with running. I am sorry that all of this is hitting you at once. I can’t even imagine how this has been affecting you. I for one know how putting it out there will allow others to support you, and I am here to do just that. I wish I could say the magic phrase that makes sense of all of this, but unfortunately that is not true.

You are right when you say there is no “perfect time” to have kids. You will never be ready and to think you will is naive. To me it sounds like excuses may continue although I would hope he understands how this is impacting you. It sounds like having children is important to you. You seem to be making so many adjustments and life decisions based upon him… when will the time come to start letting your opinion dictate those decisions. Please let me know if I could ever be of assistance. Good luck with the race… I hope to get to that point, but it is a long way away. The race can be run a different day… maybe you should focus on the right race for you… one that may have nothing to do with running.

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